This is a book for men only—specifically followers of Jesus, especially if they are married men, and especially if they are finding marriage to be perplexing and more difficult than they expected. This is a book about how God’s instructions in the Bible can make a man’s marriage better.
Before getting married, most men think that marriage will be easy. The man assumes that if he finds the right woman, he will be an excellent husband. She will love him; he will love her. What could be simpler? The Bible teaches a different message. The Bible commands men to love their wives as the Messiah loves his people:
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. (Ephesians 5:25)
This verse from Paul’s letter to the Ephesians means that, according to the Bible, a man must crucify himself, so to speak, for the sake of his bride. That’s how Christ loved the assembly of his people.
If you are happily married, you might not understand Paul’s picture, but if you are struggling in a distressed marriage, you might identify with the metaphor a little too readily. Husbands enduring unhappy marriages might think crucifixion preferable to the torment of an abrasive home life. Drawing insights from the New Testament, Messianic Jewish teaching, and the wisdom of the Jewish people, this is a book about how you can carry out the Bible’s instruction to “love your wife just as the Messiah loved the assembly and gave himself up for her.”